My mother who is 80 plus decided not to bother her sons and daughter by staying alone in her own home. This gives her freedom to do what she likes at own home. She often said that she will cause inconvenience to whichever family she chose to stay with.
Being of this age, she is frail and not so mobile. Hence, work such as cleaning her house is not advisable. As her sons and daughter, we are often concerned for her. We called her everyday to check on her. We will make a trip to her home on weekends and clean up her house to keep it tidy and clean.
We will read her letters and act on some because she will not understand as she did not attend schools. The Progress Package given by the government was one example of something we can help.
My third sister-in-law helped trim my mother’s hair. She and my sister did a thorough cleaning of her house once in a while.
Often, we have our own family to look after. We can be tired after a week of work with low energy level. We have our own programmes and our parents are not featured highly in our priority list. We sometimes felt reluctant and lamented the need to visit our parents even when they asked us to.
If you think about it, how much longer can they ask us to visit them if they are already old? Schools sometimes arrange visits to old folks’ homes as part of community involvement programme. With our own aged parents, this presents an opportunity for such involvement!
Written on 1/30/2007 1:53 PM
Copyright © 2007, the author known as LKT in Singapore.